What Shamu Thought Me About a Happy Marriage

 

 Shamu Thought Me About a Love And Happy Marriage

For those who have ever said, "You can't live with them, you can't live without them," Amy Sutherland offered a third option: train them. The Boston-based author had been immersed in the world of exotic animal training for a year when the light went out: why not try this progressive training technique on my husband, family and friends? However, humans have only a DNA twist or two from forest creatures, and they bite less frequently (on average).

In his new book, What Shamu Teaches Me About Life, Love and Marriage: Lessons for Animals and Their Trainers, Sutherland surveyed the training techniques behind SeaWorld and Sage Freud. Roy and she were surprised that she was equally effective with her husband, Scott, and different people. Plus, they're much more kind than the clumsy techniques we use at home.

What Shamu Thought Me About a Happy Marriage 

·         Let's start with the obvious: why unlike Shamu, Fox or Ferret?

The New York Times chose Shamu for the title of the column based on my book, but it was so good that I chose it for the title of the book. That man has been successful in training killer whales, the greatest hunter of the sea, speaks of the wonders that progressive animals can train.

·         Many of these techniques work in the way we train animals, children and yes, even couples. What are we doing wrong?

We use punishment a lot, and in hundreds of small ways we are not familiar with it. In doing so, we often discourage the behavior we want. It also hurts our relationship. We will never stop using punishment, we are the first, but I hope this book encourages people to give up at least a little bit of work.

·         What was your worst moment during the research?

While doing my research I went to pet leopards, walked with crocodiles and kissed a couple of sea lions (really soaked smoothie) I was always very careful, but only once was scared. One day, when a student took Rosie Baboon for a leash walk, a canopy flap flew against him and scared him. He screamed, jumped around and showed his teeth. Baboon is strangely strong and the student was relatively inexperienced, but he quickly calmed down.

·         Humans assume that because we have speech, we communicate much better with other animals. Not true

Well, we don't know how much the animals talk and how much we talk. We are very slow and rely too much on the power of speech. Working with animals forces you to learn to read body language and behavior. That's it, you see what this volume says.

·         The idea of ​​"training" your spouse seems a bit cool

The couple has been reckoning with each other for a change of heart since Homo erectus stood up and thought, "Wow, this is so much more comfortable." I felt like I was already basically "training" my husband, but in a very hem fist that often exploded on my face. Luckily for me, the animal trainers showed me a lot of usefulness, not to mention kindness.

·         Did it change your dynamics?

Yes, for the better. We appreciate each other more. Daily wear and tear, and penetration is very rare. I get worse. He boasts less. Our small animal kingdom is more peaceful.

·         Based on our cultural norms, who are the best birth trainers, men or women?

I'm not sure if there is a better birth trainer. I think women are more active. Men can use domination to get what they want. It almost doesn't work well with women, so they are more likely to turn to diplomacy, which is basically training.

·         How would you resolve the current debate about spraying a baby?

Well, progressive trainers will seldom, if ever, kill an animal because it is clearly a punishment, which can cause more problems than its solution. They believe that the blow will damage their relationship with the animal and if used too often or without thinking, it loses its effect. Whether right or wrong, from an animal trainer's point of view, this is a flawed technique. It's better to try something else.

·         Has your pride in progressive training left you with a generally optimistic view of the world?

Much more. First of all, seeing that these principles of behavior work in all species, including us, speaks to the great web of life. I am happy to remind you very clearly that I am a member of the animal kingdom. What works on Shamu works on me.