Best Things to Create Happy Marriage

 

Great Tips to Create Happy Marriage Relationship 

Best Things to Create Happy Marriage

·         Calm yourself if necessary to be able to hear each other

When we hit a collision in communication, we can get stuck because of the way we understand the other person's behavior. Sometimes our partner's behavior feels like an attack (because they are angry or upset), or we think they don't care what we want (when we face resistance and obstruction). ۔ Take some time to calm down and return to your heart and your love for each other. Then look at the subject again from this quiet place.

 

·         Get curious about the emotions behind the desire or need

Curiosity prevents you from making false assumptions about your partner's motivation. For example, a couple blocks the road about how to spend their next vacation. The wife wants to see her parents as usual, but her husband says he does not want to see them this year. If the wife turns to curiosity instead of being defensive and anxious, she can discover something new.

 

·         When a conflict arises, try to understand what is really important to each of you

Many times, we assume that we know what is important to each other, but we are often wrong. If your partner talks about buying a Jeep, it may not be the real Jeep as it represents freedom and adventure. If your partner wants to buy a brand-new set of living room furniture, what she really wants can be the fun of being creative that she loses the interior design job she gave up. Ask open-ended questions that lead to meaningful dialogue and happy resolutions.

 

·         Move from "I" to "We"

When we move from "I" to "we" we find a whole new way of living together. It is no longer about "selfishness" that tends to compromise. It's about "our desire", where we create a daily experience that transcends a habit of conversation and becomes one of discovery. We look at things with a mindset that keeps us alert to opportunities to ensure that each of us is thriving within the relationship.

 

·         Compromise with your words

There was a time in my marriage when we were raising three young children and our budget was very tight. Due to financial constraints, we chose to go out only once a month. We were trying to plan for our next date (within a certain budget). My husband really wanted to go to a special movie, but I wanted to go to my favorite restaurant for a great meal.