Keys to makes a Happy Marriage
What
makes a Happy Marriage? The best Signs
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Communicate clearly and frequently
Communicating with your
spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage healthy and successful. Be
honest about how you feel, but be kind and respectful when you talk.
Part of good
communication is being a good listener and taking the time to understand what
your spouse wants and needs from you. Keep the lines of communication open by
talking often, not just about things like bills and children. Share your
thoughts and feelings.
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Tell your spouse that you are
grateful for it in your life
Praise each other, your
relationship, your family and life together. Say thank you when your partner
cooks dinner, helps the kids with their homework, or does grocery shopping. It
may help to take a few minutes each evening to tell each other at least one
thing.
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Make time for both of you as a couple
With work and family
responsibilities, it can be easy to lose the romantic element. Plan special
dates, either go out or just stay home. If you have children, send them on a
play date while you relax, talk and enjoy each other's company.
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Plan some personal time
Time alone is as
important as couple time. Everyone needs time to recharge, think and enjoy
personal interests. This time is often wasted when you are married, especially
if you have children. Go out with friends, take classes, or volunteer, whatever
you find enriching. You will appreciate each other more when you come back with
your spouse.
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Understand that it is okay to
disagree
You will not agree on
everything, but you must be fair and respectful in the face of differences.
Listen to your spouse's point
of view. Try not to get angry and don't let yourself get too frustrated. Come
on in, take a look and enjoy yourself! Compromise on issues so you both give a
little.
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Build trust
Marriage therapist and
researcher John Gottman, PhD, has found that criticism, contempt, defense and
stoning are serious threats to marriage.
The more a couple engages
in these destructive activities, the more likely they are to get divorced. Her
decades of research and working with couples show that couples who live
together know how to fight without animosity and take responsibility for their
actions.
After a fight, they are
more likely to respond quickly to each other's wishes and to mend their
relationship.
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Learn to forgive
Everyone makes mistakes.
Your spouse may hurt your feelings or do something that upsets you, and it can
make you angry, even angry.
But it is important that you deal with your emotions, let them go and move on. Don't bring up the past.
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